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Q. I have been searching for answers all over the internet, and I came across your page. I am attending my fiance’s sister’s wedding in a month and we are part of the wedding party. We will be attending the rehearsal dinner, and I am not sure what to wear. In order to complement what my fiance is wearing, I came across an ivory colored dress. Is that inappropriate to wear to the rehearsal dinner? The day of the wedding I am wearing blue, and I don’t want to wear blue again the night before. Help! What are the dress rules for the rehearsal dinner and also for the brunch the morning after the wedding?
-Ivory Intimidation

A. As long as you’re not wearing a competing white or ivory the day of the wedding, then feel free to wear the ivory dress to the rehearsal dinner. There should be no expectation to wear blue the night before to match the day of the wedding as well.

Q. I’m getting married in June. My fiance is Indian and my family is of Scandinavian descent. To capture both of our cultures and personalities we are having a wedding focusing around pinks, greens, metallics, and adding paisley and embroidered elements which are very prominent in both themes. We are having a garden style wedding with our siblings as our honored attendants. We are keeping it really simple yet elegant (and inexpensive). I’m wearing a traditional white dress, my fiance is wearing a black traditional Indian outfit and our sisters are wearing black dresses and pink Pashminas. Our question: What should we have our brothers wear that would be very informal but classy? I was thinking of either a white shirt with a black tie or an Indian-style white shirt with light embroidery and a Nehru collar (which we cannot find anywhere!). Do you have ideas or suggestions?
-Culture Combination

A. A white button down shirt and tie is just fine, but have the men wear a tie in a color from the wedding to keep the colors bright and fun. I like the idea of extending the cultural expression at your wedding. Check out sites like and where you’ll find traditional Sherwani garments, Nehru shirts and colorful embroidered shirts. Here are a few additional sites and looks to help you shop and make your shirt choice.

Pink Half Silk ShirtMagenta Half Silk Mens Shirt323 C250597AWhite Nehru Collar Shirt

1. Pink Half Silk Shirt,
2. Magenta Half Silk Mens Shirt,
3. Nehru shirt,
4. White Nehru Collar Shirt,

Q. My fiance used to work in a tux rental store and believes that silver vests and ties look the best against black tuxes for his groomsmen.  I would like the bridesmaids to wear black dresses with bright pink flowers.  I also want the best man to wear a different color tie, preferably royal blue, and the maid of honor to wear a bright pink dress.  My bouquet would have a mixture of white, blue, and pink flowers.  Is it okay to have that many colors in the wedding?
- Tux Distress

A. It’s up to you how much cohesion you want with the color choices at your wedding. There are no longer hard and fast rules for a wedding. It just helps the unavoidable gossip mill when your wedding looks elegant and sophisticated.   Keep the silver vests for the groomsman to a low shine factor and err on the side of a shade closer to platinum.

Have you discussed with the maid of honor her thoughts on a bright pink dress? With the addition of carrying pink flowers, will she feel like a big piece of candy?  I love pink, but I guarantee you I never wore the dress from my brother’s first wedding again. We all like to think we’ve been smart enough to choose a dress that our bridesmaids will be able to wear again, but they may think differently once they’ve seen your choice.  Will one bright pink dress and one royal blue tie be the ideal way to pull in all your colors?  What about having your maid of honor wear a more fabulous black dress compared to the other bridesmaids? Make hers long while the others wear cocktail length or have them or her wear a bright pink ribbon with the dress. I’d suggest a pale pink metallic strappy heel or silver heel with the black dresses to add a pop of color.

Q. I love your column! My boyfriend and I recently got engaged, and although I’ve been to tons of weddings, I’m so clueless about what to choose for my own bridesmaids. We’re planning the wedding for early September, and although I’ve always wanted my girls to be dressed in yellow (I love the color), I’m worried that it’s too summery for early fall in Canada. Also, we were thinking of using navy blue as a complimentary color, and we’re wondering if that would be a good choice since many sites that we have visited have said to use a pale green or purple with yellow, but I’m not very fond of those options. Finally, would silver or gold be better for accessories and shoes? I’m leaning towards silver, but my sister, who is my maid of honor, is petitioning for gold. Thanks so much for your help!

A. As long as you choose a dress that isn’t too revealing or summery in style, then yellow will be fine for early September as your color choice. I agree with your sister’s petition for gold accessories since it will match better with the warm, bright yellow. Silver will seem mismatched and too much of a contrast. Or, you could choose a satin navy for your shoe choice as a great punch to the dress choice. I’m not a big fan of purple while navy will help add a strong, conservative and classic hue to the Fall wedding. Just choose a yellow that will work with all your girls’ skin tones. Yellow can make pale girls look even more washed out and even sickly. Perhaps adding one band of color on the dress or wearing gold heels will help. And there’s always tinted moisturizer.

Whitney silk faille dress This Whitney silk faille dress from is shown with regal blue heels which lend a sassy touch. Add a ribbon band around the waist of the dress to add additional color.

$250 at

Q. I need help to figure out what type and color of shoes to wear as a bridesmaid for a beach wedding in Key West.  My dress is a tangerine color and is from JCrew.
-Tangerine Dream

A. Beach weddings are always tough in the sandal department. We all want to look our best and heels guarantee a good looking leg, but sand impedes that choice. The other way to look at it is you get to be more casual and dance barefoot. So before you kick off your sandals and go barefoot for the reception, choose a flat fancy sandal with a little gold embellishment.

Mystique 1919Nine West Rosmarie

1. Mystique 1919, $130 at
2. Nine West Rosmarie, $82.95 at

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