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Q. I’m in my mid-40s and starting to go into menopause. Suddenly, I’m feeling like a wrinkled old lady and nothing in my closet looks good on me. I know it’s probably the hormones talking, but do you have any tips on how to dress my age and still look stylish?


A. Of course it’s the hormones talking! After all, you’re the same person you were a year ago, so menopause doesn’t mean you have to suddenly dress like your grandmother. And if you think hot flashes are all bad, watch this cute video at and you’ll feel better about your enviable flush. The point is, don’t let menopause steal your confidence and young attitude!

If you’re thumbing through the latest issue of your favorite fashion mag and just not identifying with the trends worn by the 20-year-old 110-pound models, you’re certainly not alone. But other than a few trends that are best left behind (we’re talking to you rompers and short jean shorts), most can be worn by women of all ages and sizes if you choose the right pieces. Often times, pairing a trendy piece with classic pieces like dark denim jeans or a pencil skirt is all it takes to make it seem age-appropriate.

Here are just a few of our favorite summer looks that look great on women over 40:

2. Full Skirt + T-Shirt: a full skirt with a simple top is one of those timeless trends that look great on women of all ages. Skip the flip flops and wear heels or chic sandals instead.
1. Floral Dress: Floral dresses often seem so young and girly, but these are sophisticated and chic.

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Q: I just bought a gorgeous, and very practical, red leather handbag (the Marc Jacobs Totally Turnlock Teri Tote). Its my first red purse and I’m just wondering if I have to match the red handbag with red shoes?

marcj2143512466_prod_zoom_back_v1_m56577569831480960.jpgA. Red handbags are one of our favorite ways to accessorize, since you can wear them with almost any color in your wardrobe. Forget about matching your red bag to red shoes and instead opt for brown, black, camel, tan, white, gold, silver, bronze, blue, green… In other words, wear your red bag with everything and don’t worry too much about matching the color to your clothes or shoes.

(The Teri tote is no longer available online in red, but we found a similar Marc bag at, shown here)

Q. I love wearing tights with high heels, but how do I prevent my feet from slipping inside my shoes!

A. It sounds to me like your shoes may not fit properly. We are huge fans of Foot Petals products which offer various shoe inserts to help your shoes fit better. If this doesn’t keep your foot from sliding, you might want to try a little double-stick wardrobe tape like Topstick on the soles of your tights to help prevent slippage. Finally, you might want to opt for heels with ankle straps or t-straps which will help keep your foot in place.

3279-442574-d.jpg.jpegQ. I was wondering what I can wear with these ankle boots and if there was anyway I can wear them this summer without looking TOO ridiculous.

A. These are great boots that you will get a lot of wear from, however, they really are too heavy to wear in the summer. Tuck them away and take them out at the end of September to wear with everything from dresses to skinny jeans (check out this article for ideas on how to wear them).

Q. I am 53 1/2 yrs old. I am the classic apple shape with a 34”waist and 39” hip with no butt ,slim thighs no hips but a big waist in comparison. I have the classic “muffin” top going if I get my jeans to fit my bottom 1/2. I am a size 6/8 on the hips/thighs and a 10/12 on the waist. What can I do? I have been looking for jeans, not low rise but just above the hips. I am at my wits end with this problem. Please help me to find a great jean!

A. Finding jeans to fit the classic apple shape can be a challenge, though not impossible. To start, look for higher waist jeans with stretch that will help “contain” your tummy and waist, rather than spilling over and creating the dreaded “muffin top”. Not Your Daughter’s Jeans is a company that specializes in higher waist “control” jeans designed to slim the lower abdomen and lift the rear without the feeling of being stuffed in binding, tight and uncomfortable material. Look for skinny or straight leg styles that will flatter your slim hips and legs.


In addition to high waist control top or stretch jeans as a flattering option, we’ll let you in on a little secret: maternity jeans . There are so many great fitting, stylish maternity jeans that are specially made with a super comfortable elastic panel. This allows you to buy the size 6/8 jeans that fit well through your hips and thighs while the panel conforms to your size 10/12 waist. Wear a top that covers the stretch panel and it will be your little secret! It sounds crazy, but there are many women who continue to wear jeans that were bought for early in their pregnancy because the stretch panel is unbelievably comfortable - perfect for running around after little ones. There is even something called a “post pregnancy” jean which may be an even better option for you than a maternity jean.

Consider having jeans custom made for you. It sounds extravagant, but sites like will create a pair of jeans just for you for as low as $50. Just plug in your sizes, choose your style and wash preferences, and you’ll have a perfect fitting pair of jeans in a few weeks.

If none of the above work for you, another option for controlling muffin top is to wear a longer length torso trimming tank, like those from Yummy Tummie. You can tuck the tank into your jeans and feel confident that everything is being sucked in.

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