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Q. I’m going to be attending a funeral soon, but I have no idea what to wear. I’ve never been to a funeral before, but I know that attire should be conservative. I don’t want to look like too mature, since I am young. Do you have any suggestions?

A. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Dressing for a funeral doesn’t have to be as difficult as you might think. The idea is to dress respectfully and somewhat conservatively - this obviously means no bright colors or sexy silhouettes. While you don’t need to wear black, it is safer to stick with dark colors like black, brown or navy. A dress, suit or skirt and top is the most appropriate. A dress is probably the most age appropriate choice for you, and you won’t have to worry about coordinating separate pieces, making it much easier to put together your outfit. We recommend a dress with a hemline that hits around your knee; sleeves are preferred, but if your dress is sleeveless, plan to wear a cardigan or wrap. It’s a good idea to have a simple conservative dress in your wardrobe anyway, not only for funerals, but for potential job interviews, etc.

As for shoes, a closed toe or peep toe pump is most appropriate. Avoid any sexy or really strappy sandals. You can most likely skip wearing hosiery, unless you feel more comfortable wearing tights or stockings.

Here are a few ideas for you that cost less than $150 and are age-appropriate:

Q. I have a ring dilemma. I wear a family heirloom diamond engagement ring on my right hand ring finger so it isn’t assumed to be an engagement ring. I always wear it, but have some cute “fashion” rings - obviously not engagement or wedding rings - that I would like to wear at the same time. Is there any reason why I can’t wear them on the left hand ring finger? Thanks for your advice.

A. Nope, there’s no reason at all that you can’t wear your fun rings on your left hand ring finger. If that’s where they fit best, then that’s where you should wear them. Just for fun, here are some of our favorite cocktail rings for spring:

Q. My niece is getting married in 7 weeks and my sister, mother of the bride wants to wear a more casual dress for the church at 1:30 and then her mother of the bride dress for the reception at 6:00 pm. I believe she should wear the mother of the bride dress to the church and reception because of pictures at the church (mother walking down the aisle, lighting the candles etc.). I have never been to a wedding where the mother of the bride did not have her dress on all day. What do you think?

_5817048.jpg.jpegA. Even though the evening reception is the “fun” part of the wedding, it’s important to remember that the ceremony is the focal point of the day. Since the bride and bridesmaids will be dressed in their beautiful gowns, and the groom and ushers will likely be wearing tuxedos or suits, the mother of the bride should wear her special dress to walk down the aisle as well. You are correct that there will be plenty of pictures of this very special and memorable occasion and the ceremony is where everyone “gets dressed”.

For the reception, many times a bride will change from her wedding gown into a less formal party dress so she can dance and mingle in more comfortable attire. Of course, the mother of the bride is welcome to change also.

So, if your sister plans to wear two dresses, she should reserve the formal dress for the ceremony and the more casual dress to the reception.

(dress shown here: Calvin Klein Stretch Satin Dress with Jacket, $198 at

Q. Everywhere I look I see miniskirts and short shorts. I have to admit, it’s been months since I’ve hit the gym - and even longer since my legs have seen the sun. I’m not ready to trade in chunky sweaters and jeans for minidresses! Any tips on wearing this trend?

A. If the multitude of miniskirts, minidresses and short shorts this spring have you shaking in your (chic) boots, feeling just the tiniest bit insecure about your body, you’re not alone. With spring just around the corner but winter weather still very much here, the last thing our pale, out of shape legs are ready to do is face the world peeking out of short hemlines.

Besides hitting the treadmill and switching to healthier snacks, we’ve got a few tips to help you survive this season’s mini trend:


1. Hit the bottle: Sunless tanners are your exposed legs’ best friend. Even a hint of a faux tan is enough to make thighs look slimmer. Moisturize well for smooth, sleek gams.

2. Pump it up: The quickest way to longer, more sexy legs? A great pair of heels or wedges. Choose a nude color and avoid ankle straps (like the model shown here) and you’ll add inches in an instant.

3. Not all minis are created equal: Be mindful of the length of your hemline; select miniskirts and shorts that hit right below the widest part of your thigh for the most flattering silhouette. Also, be sure to do the sit-down and bend-over test to avoid overexposure.

4. Loosen up: Choose loose, cuffed shorts and A-line or full skirts to make thighs look skinny by comparison.

5. Use diversion tactics: Choose billowy tops and oversized accessories, like a statement necklace or large handbag, to make the rest of you look small in comparison.

6. Snack wisely:  You can enjoy snacking but don’t blow it on goodies that aren’t worth it. Instead try healthier versions of your favorite snacks. We love Baked! Lays - they taste as good as regular potato chips and only have 1.5 grams of fat per serving. Snacking can be yummy!

Follow these tips and you’re on your way to surviving this season’s mini trend! (c’mon, sing it with us: who wears short shorts?)


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Q. The ankle strap seems to be back this year. Could you please show a few examples of how to wear these sandals so they do not visually shorten your legs.

A. You’re right, the ankle strap is everywhere this season in many variations, from thin and ladylike to thick and rocker-inspired to wraparound gladiator-style. You are also right that they have a tendency to visually shorten legs. Here are some tips for wearing ankle straps:


1. Flat gladiator styles that often wrap more than once around your ankle can be a tough style to pull off for women with short legs or muscular calves. Look for lighter colors that closely match your skin tone like the model in look 1 above. Wear them with dresses, skirts or shorts that hit above the knee to make your legs look as long as possible. Or, wear them with maxi dresses that cover most of the leg anyway.

2. Look for ankle straps that hit below the ankle, like the pair in image #2. As you can see, they actually dip down towards the foot, giving you an extra inch or two below where the typical ankle strap hits.

3. Look for skinny straps in light colors like the pair in image #3. This will prevent the straps from visually chopping your leg at the ankle. Again, opt for a hemline above the knee. You can also try wearing them with cropped or rolled pants that hit just above the ankle or just below the wider part of your calf.

4. This season’s newest trend is the chunky cage heel which often comes in dark colors and features thick ankle straps - a tough look for anyone with less-than-slim calves or short legs to wear. This style looks best worn with minis or short shorts which allow as much leg to show as possible. As with other ankle strap heels, you can also wear them with cropped or rolled pants that hit just above the ankle or just below the wider part of your calf.

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